in article C1F790C5.31D6C%alanb@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Alan B. Mac Farlane at
alanb@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote on 2/13/07 3:59 PM:
> So Tommy gets his way ... the parent objects are doing everything right
...
> Tommy is furious
when the parent objects leave the child alone thusly ... and taking the
utmost care at the same time ... the emotions have to burn through the
child.
this is where the child ... starts to mature.
to grow up.
later on in life ... there are loss, their are pains, there are things
taken
away from you .. and that pain, that hurt has to burn its way through the
person to heal them.
this is where consciousness come from via the emotional intelligence.
sooo ... children who are not given the op****tunity to have these emotions
burn through them .. via abuse vectors, abandonment vectors, emotional
depravations and lack of modeling ... well they have PTSD issues tied into
the tempertantrum locked in its frozen emotion.
it is a survival issue from the defense structure ment to protect them,
and
it is good ... how the tempertantrum looks like depression, attachment
disorders, disattachment disorders, borderline personality disorders,
attention deficet disorder, etc etc etc.
Moving the frozen emotion and have it burn through you to get better is
something most people are not wont to do as it hurts so freaking much
later
on in life.
There is so much of it that has to be unburdened in the muscle memory that
was necessary for survival ... and it works.
You are here reading this.
The Defense Structure makes everything .. it makes near death experiences,
it makes stop signs, it makes dreams, it makes who you love, your
children,
what happens to you ... to heal you, your family, your past, your future,
your nation and the world if you but go with it.
If you resist it ... then it just makes things worst as it were since that
is what being held on ... until one faces one fears locking in the frozen
emotion .. which is the basic tempertantrum.
One learns to love mom, pour love into her wounds, be conscious like a
healthy parent object would. Same for dad ... understand him that way
with
that kind of love.
Fix up Dad inside and your divorce rate goes away.
Fix up Mom inside and your addictions goes away.
The tempertantrum comes out to the degree you go after it, melting the
frozen emotions in the muscle memory as all disease has to come out of the
body. It was not in there from the beginning ... that is all good from
the
get go.
It just was not handle well after a good start.
But that can be put to remedy.
IMO and all that rot.
Alan
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