In article <C1F794C2.31D6E%alanb@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
"Alan B. Mac Farlane" <alanb@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> in article C1F790C5.31D6C%alanb@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
Alan B. Mac Farlane at
> alanb@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote on 2/13/07 3:59 PM:
>
> > So Tommy gets his way ... the parent objects are doing everything
right ...
> > Tommy is furious
>
>
> when the parent objects leave the child alone thusly ... and taking the
> utmost care at the same time ... the emotions have to burn through the
> child.
>
> this is where the child ... starts to mature.
>
> to grow up.
>
> later on in life ... there are loss, their are pains, there are things
taken
> away from you .. and that pain, that hurt has to burn its way through
the
> person to heal them.
>
> this is where consciousness come from via the emotional intelligence.
>
> sooo ... children who are not given the op****tunity to have these
emotions
> burn through them .. via abuse vectors, abandonment vectors, emotional
> depravations and lack of modeling ... well they have PTSD issues tied
into
> the tempertantrum locked in its frozen emotion.
>
> it is a survival issue from the defense structure ment to protect them,
and
> it is good ... how the tempertantrum looks like depression, attachment
> disorders, disattachment disorders, borderline personality disorders,
> attention deficet disorder, etc etc etc.
>
> Moving the frozen emotion and have it burn through you to get better is
> something most people are not wont to do as it hurts so freaking much
later
> on in life.
>
> There is so much of it that has to be unburdened in the muscle memory
that
> was necessary for survival ... and it works.
>
> You are here reading this.
>
> The Defense Structure makes everything .. it makes near death
experiences,
> it makes stop signs, it makes dreams, it makes who you love, your
children,
> what happens to you ... to heal you, your family, your past, your
future,
> your nation and the world if you but go with it.
>
> If you resist it ... then it just makes things worst as it were since
that
> is what being held on ... until one faces one fears locking in the
frozen
> emotion .. which is the basic tempertantrum.
>
> One learns to love mom, pour love into her wounds, be conscious like a
> healthy parent object would. Same for dad ... understand him that way
with
> that kind of love.
>
> Fix up Dad inside and your divorce rate goes away.
>
> Fix up Mom inside and your addictions goes away.
>
> The tempertantrum comes out to the degree you go after it, melting the
> frozen emotions in the muscle memory as all disease has to come out of
the
> body. It was not in there from the beginning ... that is all good from
the
> get go.
>
> It just was not handle well after a good start.
>
> But that can be put to remedy.
>
> IMO and all that rot.
>
> Alan
Well, could be; good stories, anyway. Thanks for the
elucidation.
C
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