Vicky =^,,^= cat wrote:
> "WhiteWitch" <heatheramara@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
> news:ColCb.179673$do1.106086@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>>Do any of you other Gothmoms worry about how your darker instincts for
>>fa****on and music and movies and decorating might be harming your child?
I
>>have tried to do my best to give Miles a neutral environment to grow up
in
>>because I don't want him to be unbalanced, but I am also concerned about
>>giving him an accurate impression of who his mother is, and what kind of
>>heritage he has.
>>
>>Does anyone else ever worry about this? I am going to be out of pocket
>
> until
>
>>Monday, but I would LOVE to get a discussion going about this to get
some
>>other perspectives.
>>
>
> Ummm... a difficult one. No and yes. No, I don't think my appearance and
> tastes are harming my girls; after all, it's *my* personality, not
theirs;
> as I was stifled as a teenager by an oppressive and possessive mother,
I'm a
> great advocate of personal expression. My daughters will be strongly
> encouraged to develop their tastes and dress the way they want (if it
has to
> be pink and frills, well, be it <shudders>).
> The only concern I have is for the impression other parents may form of
me.
> We live in a quiet, fairly well-to-do, conservative, 'mumsy' suburbian
area
> of London and you just don't see many goths apart from the occasional
'baby
> bat'. I find myself toning my tastes down as I don't want to be 'the
weird
> one' whose kids are excluded because 'their mum dresses funny, maybe
she's
> in some cult'. I don't know many people in this area yet, in fact I'm
pretty
> desperate for some local friends recently I have started to go to mother
and
> toddlers groups and I'm really paranoid that my appearance, however
tamed,
> will put off the other mums.
> xx Victoria
Yea I guess raising your kid in a Neighborhood of "Freaks" can
have a disadvantage eh? =80D
Ike
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