Toning it down?!

Anyone here? It's been quiet lately...

Anyway, there's something I wouldn't mind discussing and getting more
opinions about.
Nearly two years ago we left busy, bustling (and anonymous) North London,
where house prices are stupidly high and you never talk to your
neighbours,
and moved to South London, to a much affordable, quieter, greener, safer,
community-oriented area. However, I had to soon notice that the only Goths
around are maybe the odd church and the occasional babybat. The community
here is largely made by comfortable families or cheery God-fearing old
dears. It's an area with money and some people can be downright snobish
and
stuck up. As I didn't know anyone in the area and I don't work I was
pretty
desperate to make some friends, and eventually I did, mostly through my
daughter's little mates at playgroup. And I couldn't help but notice how
everyone was so very different from me: either the designer-s****t-gear
enthusiasts or the ***-In-The-City fa****onista types. So I started to tone
my appearance down a notch. It's still 'all black' but it's more 'plain'
goth than it would normally be. Gone is the PVC, the fishnet, the lace. I
do
still indulge in slogan fitted tees, but just once in a while. But I miss
my
old 'me'. Still, I do want to fit in, at least a bit. Especially for the
kids. I don't want them to be, say, brushed aside because 'their mum looks
weird'. I don't want other parents to tell their kids 'no, don't invite
Tegwyn over to play, her mum is in a weird cult' or stuff like that. But
then I think, hey, maybe I'm just paranoid and no-one really cares if I
dress the way I do. But how the hell do I know?!!
Am I alone in this? Do other Goth or punk mums have similar concerns?
I'd appreciate your comments...
xx Victoria

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