Re: Toning it down?!

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> "Vicky  =^,,^=  cat" <nospam@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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>... 
>> Still, I do want to fit in, at least a bit. Especially for
>> the kids. I don't want them to be, say, brushed aside
>> because 'their mum looks weird'. I don't want other
>> parents to tell their kids 'no, don't invite Tegwyn over
>> to play, her mum is in a weird cult' or stuff like that. 
> 
> 
> This is exactly what I was referring to in my previous
> post. Giving your child a chance to be a part of the norm
> of society. I agree, you should tone it down a few notches.
> You have a responsibility to your child to provide them
> with a normal childhood. When your child is old enough to
> comprehend society and values, then you can tell them who 
> you are and let them decide if they want to follow your
> path. 

 define "normal childhood". 
what *exactly* do you mean by 'tone it down a few notches'? do 
you mean everyone *must* look like the standard TV unrealistic 
view of society?
 what you don't seem to understand is that the society you are 
insisting we need to fit into is, & always has been, made up 
of various subcultures. there *is* not & never has been a 
homogeneous society, especially not in the US.
 i was a Cold War baby. i was born in the McCarthy era. you 
know what? my outwardly very "normal" looking parents were 
doing subversive things like learning to speak & read 
Russian... i learned early that it was just fine to not fit 
in. i have no idea why *you* think everyone should be Sam & 
Suzy Whitebread.
> 
> Here is my previous post on a similiar thread:
> 
> My opinion is that as a parent, you have a moral
> responsibility to raise your children in a healthy
> environment that fits within the limits of the norm of your
> society.  Since the "gothic" scene doesn't fit the norm of
> a modern civilization, such as USA or England, it is wrong
> to expose your young influential children to this
> subculture. 

 and you never answered my rebuttal to this. i suspect it's 
because you realize your position is tenuous at best, or that 
you really don't have a clue what you're talking about.
 just how many children have you raised, anyway?
 
> As a parent, you are an instructor of the proper conduct
> and behavior for your child. Your way of life contributes
> to the personality and mental health of your child. Most of
> us became part of the gothic subculture due to our parents
> irresponsibilty (such as divorce, *****ural relation****ps,
> mental or physical abuse, multiple father or mother
> figuires, etc.). 

 you're still full of ****.
lee