Re: Asking for Words of Advice...

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On Thu, 10 Apr 2008 21:21:27 -0700 (PDT), in message
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 ravenstorm27 <ravenstorm27@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:

>I live in Boston and my husband and I have been together for 8 years,
>married for four (MM couple).

How time flies. Maybe the option will be out there across the USA and
well beyond Mass. sometime soon.

> This year we reached a growth point/
>comfort zone where we decided to open our relation****p. We are
>fortunate to have several wonderful, long lasting poly models in our
>lives. And we are both clear that this is NOT about "the ***" but as
>we've grown together our tastes have diversified in both personality
>and body type.

I recommend extreme caution. If you both think you are clear that it's
not about ***, but is about divergent tastes in body type, then you
should probably back up about three spaces and ask yourselves again. I
may be lacking something, but for me "taste in body type" is very much
about *** or something pretty close unless you are casting a musical.
It sure isn't about conversation...

I'm not saying it's wrong. I'm just saying you should actually be
clear with each other if you are really thinking you would like to
have *** with somebody bigger/smaller, darker/lighter, softer/harder,
or more M/F than your current partner.

If it's just about personality, then I would recommend finding friends
and not worrying too much about their "body type"

There's certainly no rush. Take plenty of time to talk and make sure
that you both actually mean what you say and that you have heard each
other. Then take some more time to figure out what you will do if what
you say now doesn't match with what you feel later. Then proceed with
caution.

Ryk


Ryk