Re: Asking for Words of Advice...

Ryk wrote:

> I recommend extreme caution. If you both think you are clear that it's
> not about ***, but is about divergent tastes in body type, then you
> should probably back up about three spaces and ask yourselves again. I
> may be lacking something, but for me "taste in body type" is very much
> about *** or something pretty close unless you are casting a musical.
> It sure isn't about conversation...
>
> I'm not saying it's wrong. I'm just saying you should actually be
> clear with each other if you are really thinking you would like to
> have *** with somebody bigger/smaller, darker/lighter, softer/harder,
> or more M/F than your current partner.
>
> If it's just about personality, then I would recommend finding friends
> and not worrying too much about their "body type"
>

Ryk,

Polyamory = poly + amory which unless I am totally daft is inclusive
of but not exclusive to ***.  I'm a bit offended that you focus on and
assume that we are "all about the ***".  This is simply not true.  Now
perhaps we are new and naive and cannot express ourselves on the
deepest and most philosophical levels of polyamory, but we view this
as an enriching of our relation****p and an op****tunity to share and
expand that love with others.  I had a wonderful date on Saturday, not
because we had HOT ***, but because he was a caring and loving person,
someone I would love to introduce my husband to.  And yes, if you wish
to have something more than purely friend****p and intellectual
exchange then body type will need to enter into it sooner or later.
You sound a lot like gay men who want FBuddies...they cannot separate
the emotional and ***ual...and yet that is exactly what we seek to
combine in relation****ps beyond our primary.  And there is nothing
wrong with that.  I don't appreciate the judgments or the attitude.  I
don't know what you're experience is but I don't appreciate having it
projected onto what, for us, is a beautiful expansion to our marriage.

Don