Re: Asking for Words of Advice...

On Sun, 13 Apr 2008, ravenstorm27 wrote:

> Ryk wrote:
> 
> > I recommend extreme caution. If you both think you are clear that it's
> > not about ***, but is about divergent tastes in body type, then you
> > should probably back up about three spaces and ask yourselves again. I
> > may be lacking something, but for me "taste in body type" is very much
> > about *** or something pretty close unless you are casting a musical.
> > It sure isn't about conversation...
> >
> > I'm not saying it's wrong. I'm just saying you should actually be
> > clear with each other if you are really thinking you would like to
> > have *** with somebody bigger/smaller, darker/lighter, softer/harder,
> > or more M/F than your current partner.
> >
> > If it's just about personality, then I would recommend finding friends
> > and not worrying too much about their "body type"
> >
> 
> Ryk,
> 
> Polyamory = poly + amory which unless I am totally daft is inclusive
> of but not exclusive to ***.  I'm a bit offended that you focus on and
> assume that we are "all about the ***".

Woah there! Defensive much? You might want to reflect on the difference 
between something being "about ***" and being "all about the ***", because

a good many people are capable of separating love and *** such that love 
doesn't require ***.

> I don't appreciate the judgments or the attitude.  I
> don't know what you're experience is but I don't appreciate having it
> projected onto what, for us, is a beautiful expansion to our marriage.
> 

Ryk's not projecting. You look a hell of a lot like you're projecting your

conceptual framework onto Ryk though.

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