umar wrote:
> Sereney-pie writes:
>>umar wrote:
>>> We enjoy each other's company a great deal, and she lives very near
>>> me, so we've been seeing rather a lot of each other. But both of us
>>> have unhappy episodes in our pasts, and both would have to make
>>> compromises for our friend****p to blossom into anything more.
>
>>Sounds like an okay place to be, to me.
>
> Having lived alone now for several years I am no longer used to
> compromises. I need to be the person I am, and I fear I cannot be
> the one she needs me to be.
ok,
don't let your fear get in the way, but do express your fear to her.
one mistake you can always make is to try to figure out what the
other person needs to be happy without actually talking about it.
another mistake is talking about it (it seems :) sorry, i'm being
cynical...). in my case i was trying to talk to someone about
love and happiness and not being observant enough to see that it
didn't matter by that point what i said. she already felt threatened
and unsafe with me and all i was doing was making it worse.
>>Love isn't a road to anywhere. It just is. It can be a very joyful
>>thing and not have to lead to any particular destination.
>
> Yet when it is found not to lead anywhere, it risks being abandoned
> for of another, more purposeful, love.
always, you can always be abandoned for many reasons, including stupid
and hurtful ones. the truth doesn't even have to be involved at all.
songbird
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