Re: Should I stay or should I go?

Lane wrote:
> On May 8, 1:38 pm, Serene <ser...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
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> I very much appreciated this post.

Thanks.  I'm not going to go point for point, but there's something 
I want to respond to:

> For what it's worth, I got this point and I even got the joke.
> 
> I believe that, in the spiral of hostility that was making me so
> uncomfortable, I got lost in my own metafrustration about that
> hostility. I believed (at the time, not so much anymore) that I was
> talking about the conversation itself, not the issue being discussed.
> I saw myself as referreeing on a point of order and getting caught in
> the crossfire and that pissed me off. So I lost the perspective I
> presumed to think I was trying to bring and started swinging myself.
> 
> So I apologize for that.

Apology accepted, and I just wanted to say that it might help you to 
think of it this way in the future:  Referrees are in a position of 
power -- they're in charge.  When you put yourself in charge of 
people without their consent, that's icky.  Does that make sense?

Serene