My wife has identified as poly since she fell in love with a couple
online last November. Sadly, that relation****p fell apart after only a
few months, before she'd had non-computer message contact with them.
She's had that happen a couple of times, where she gets really
emotionally attached to people on the Internet and after a few months,
things fall apart.
We were having an argument recently about her frequent online life and it
became so heated, I nearly struck her. She feels that we need some time
apart so she's planning a bus trip to visit a friend for a few weeks.
Since the argument, we've talked and realized that there have been
problems that we need to work on, (I have control issues, she can be co-
dependent) both together and apart. Things have gotten warmer but we
still realize the need for more healing.
[Meat and potatoes]
Since the fight, she's been talking with another guy online and doing
some recreational flirting and cyber***. She is now considering altering
her bus trip for a week to visit this guy for a week of ***, and then
going to visit her friend.
Considering I'm trying to relax my control issues, I don't want to tell
her NOT to visit this new guy but the whole idea of an extra-marital
vacation while she's going through a marital separation seems wrong to me.
Does anyone have any advice on how I should handle this?
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