Re: Pesky Gender, another rant [was: First posting...

Kai Jones <snippy@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, in article
<6d8r24hcpapje3napat4d3hc4u9j87affi@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, dixit:
>When I think about the word "nice," I feel like I'm being told to
>smile whether I want to or not.  Nice takes a lot of effort, and
>mostly benefits other people (not me); I need my energy for my own
>healing.  If people perceive me as nice (in a good way), I'm glad, but
>it's an unintended consequence of behaving in the ways I think are
>valuable and right.  

I think that's a definition of 'nice' that's easy to come by when you
most encounter that word in the form of the admonition "be nice!'
Which means, stifle your rage, paste on a fake smile, and make nice
for the sake of community harmony.


-- 
Piglet