Re: Pesky Gender, another rant [was: First posting...

Serene wrote:
> Stef wrote:
> 
>> This may be strictly idiosyncratic to me, but I'm thinking about
>> "feminine" behavior and dress. I got a lot of pressure to be
differently
>> feminine when I was young, and as a result I came to hate some feminine
>> behaviors and clothing styles. It took me a long time to get that some
>> people actually *enjoy* wearing the types of clothing and doing the
>> types of behavior that I was pressured by and therefore hate -- and
they
>> do it not to conform but because it feels good to them.
> 
> 
> *nodnod* I sometimes wish my preferred presentation weren't so 
> ****ing gender-normative.

strangely, since i have started doing something very strongly 
not-gender-normative (shaving my head, pictures on my flickr site; email 
me if you don't know where it is and want to see), i have been much more 
concerned about the *rest* of my gender presentation-- wearing "the good 
bra", wearing clothes that fit according to standard feminine rules, 
fewer flannels and oversize t-****rts. it's a little weird.

betsy.
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