Re: Pesky Gender, another rant [was: First posting...

In article <8v2734tmkhuluct7h98pjm0tkrdrh38cm3@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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Vicki Rosenzweig  <vr@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>Quoth stef@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 (Stef) on Tue, 20 May 2008 19:46:38 +0000 (UTC):
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>>I also wouldn't say that I "am" considerate or kind or whatever, because
>>I'm very aware of all the times I didn't behave that way, and because in
>>general I avoid labeling my self; I'd rather label my actions if
>>something has to be labeled. I have a goal of acting in considerate/kind
>>ways. 
>
>On the other hand, considerate and kind both seem like better goals
>for one's self/behavior than niceness. 

By my definition, niceness is not specific enough to be a goal.

If nice is a combination of kind, considerate, polite, and "doing little
things to make people happy," then I have the first three as goals but I
don't have the last one as a goal. Sometimes I feel like it and the
results are pleasant, but the closest I could come to it as a goal is to
feel like it more often. 

>(Though nice is not the worst
>behavioral goal: for example, someone could set out to be rude for its
>own sake--not assertive, not introverted and declining conversation
>because they have a perfectly good book, but the sort of rudeness that
>cuts in front of people on line and insults strangers at random.)

Does this mean you define nice as the opposite of rude?
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