Re: Pesky Gender, another rant [was: First posting...

In article <kma934t74pmdt47pfgijma24uvk7csvgbp@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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Vicki Rosenzweig  <vr@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>Quoth aahz@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 (Aahz Maruch) on 20 May 2008 20:05:17 -0700:
>>In article <8v2734tmkhuluct7h98pjm0tkrdrh38cm3@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
>>Vicki Rosenzweig  <vr@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>>>
>>>On the other hand, considerate and kind both seem like better goals
>>>for one's self/behavior than niceness. (Though nice is not the worst
>>>behavioral goal: for example, someone could set out to be rude for its
>>>own sake--not assertive, not introverted and declining conversation
>>>because they have a perfectly good book, but the sort of rudeness that
>>>cuts in front of people on line and insults strangers at random.)
>>
>>Thank you.  I mean, I know *I* don't think I'm being rude because I
>>prefer my book, but it's nice to hear that from other people
>>occasionally.
>
>This is one that one of my partners and I have discussed: zie is
>sometimes grumpy about being interrupted by people who want directions
>(whereas I tend to smile and provide the information), but saves the
>serious grumpiness for random strangers and casual acquaintances who
>cannot or will not understand that a person happily reading a book
>while waiting for a bus, train, or doctor's appointment is, in fact,
>already doing something, something they are probably happier with than
>with random conversation that starts with small talk in the hope of
>finding a shared topic.

In my case, the grumpiness is doubled because of my hearing impairment,
which vastly increases the cost of talking with a random person.
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