polyamory, bi***uality, and flirting

Is it spring? I find I'm feeling very flirtatious with people I
actually see lately. Hey, I love to flirt, and I haven't really had
the energy in the last few years, so it's nice to have it back, but I
feel rusty, or new questions crop up. I wonderd if they did for
others, too. 

One, does flirting feel different when people know you're poly? I'm in
pretty much a monogamous mode, and have almost always been, so I'm not
sure, except for the rustiness, why it's coming up as a question now,
but do you see a difference in a flirt object when they know you're
polyamorous versus if they think/know you're monogamous? (I should
probably say I mostly see flirting as an end in itself.) Does your
behavior change depending on whether the other person is poly or
monogamous? Do you feel more of a need to make sure they know it's
"just flirting" if they're theoretically available (poly, or single,
or...) than not?

And - for my fellow bi women - is there another difference, with ***?
I'm finding in some ways that flirting with guys, something I think
I'm long out of practice with, is in one sense easier - it's rather
accepted and expected - and in other ways, I hold back a bit more than
I would with women... I think I trust women's boundaries or
understanding more, or maybe it's just that I find women much, much
less likely to notice flirting unless it's pretty obvious. 

There's also the small town effect. Maybe it's being in my home town,
where I'm known from way back and plan to be known for years to come,
by people with long memories and a willingness to gossip, or is it the
weird sense I keep getting of, although I *know* people have affairs
left and right (again, the gossip - and observation, and self-re****t)
that ***uality is very, very muffled here, unless you're a teenager. I
finally have a woman friend in town whose eyes lit up with
recognistion when I said "I'm used to knowing what *** toys my friends
own." I'm missing a milieu where open discussion of *** and ***uality
is common, not outrageous. My hometown, being a parent, being in a
motos relation****p, being older, not being involved in any bi women's
group, maybe they're all factors?

Anyway, my musings for the day, about stuff going on this season, here
in beautiful Podunkville.

-- 
What use was it having all that money if you could never sit still 
        or just watch your cattle eating grass? 
- Alexander McCall Smith, _The No.1 Ladies' Detective Agency_