Re: polyamory, bi***uality, and flirting

In article <8mkjh5-re2.ln1@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
Aqua  <aqua@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>Aahz Maruch wrote:
>> In article <l99ih5-k5b.ln1@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
>> Aqua  <aqua@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>>>
>>> It's very sad that when a man genuinely is fascinated by a woman's
ideas 
>>> and conversation, there's a general assumption he wants to have ***
with 
>>> her.  (It also could go some way towards explaining why it sometimes 
>>> feels impossible to be a female scientist working with adult male 
>>> colleagues.)
>> 
>> Well, the honest truth is that if I'm the man in question, I probably
do
>> want to have *** with her, for values of "want" that generally don't
>> contain a lot of force behind them.  And I get the impression that I'm
>> not particularly unusual.
>> 
>> Obviously, I like to think that I'm sufficiently socialized that my
>> tongue isn't hanging out all the time, but I think that the general
>> prevalence of male ***ual interest (regardless of whether it's social
or
>> genetic) must have some effects.
>
>Oh good deity or quantum effect of reader's choice.
>
>It's not like I haven't ever worked with colleagues I found ***ually 
>attractive, and hey, there might even have been some interaction between 
>their ****ny brains and the rest of whatever is required for me to take 
>***ual interest in someone.
>
>If you're suggesting that research grants should only be awarded to 
>scientists who've demonstrated they can interact with people they may 
>find ***ually attractive, without letting that noticeably bias the way 
>they judge the scientific work and abilities of those people, positively 
>or negatively, I'm all for it.

Because my followup was purely to address the existence of the "general
assumption", I don't really have a convenient hook to respond here.  I
don't have clear thoughts about how to handle this issue.
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