Phoenix wrote:
> anarii@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote:
>> hmm looks like oopsied, I thought I send the message to the board. I
>> dont mean people here cheat. I mean most of the people we come in
>> contact with. They dont want to be upfront and honest with their
>> spouses, and they want us to help them cheat. It really bothers me,
>> and it's not something I want to get mixed up in.
>
> I don't blame you. It bothers me, too...and I won't do it. I don't
> understand, like you, how that can be OK with cheating but think that
> there's something wrong with poly. Huh?? Makes my brain go "ow" trying
> to figure it out.
Here, dear, let me massage your brain. Mmm... how's that?
> Hi, by the way. I'm Deborah. I currently have a legal husband, an
> ex-wife I'm fond of and still in regular contact with, a long-distance
> female partner and a long-distance couple with whom both my husband and
> I are busy sorting out just how that might work (and we are all pretty
> clear that we want it to work).
<G> Hello, rii and jerry. I'm Michael. Welcome to alt.poly!
That whole "cheating is tolerable, but polyamory is wrong" mentality
weirds me out, too. It seems to me that some people have a huge
emotional investment in the exact configuration of their intimate
relation****ps, but none at all in their own moral integrity. It's as if
they really expect the sacrament to redeem them.
If one has that much invested in the cookie-cutter binary relation****p
mold, one should consider putting as much into behaving as if it mattered.
> Welcome to alt.polyamory, you two. Pull up a chair and settle yourselves
> right in! Can I bring you a nice cup of coffee, or perhaps some tea?
>
> Deborah
Ooh, tea!
--
Michael Rosen
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