In article <sibc84h64a6a6iq8u2eoudnc5e1r4g6t6b@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
Kai Jones <snippy@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>On 22 Jul 2008 10:29:37 -0700, aahz@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
(Aahz Maruch) published
>this:
>
>>In article <5b4c84ta7o6ap0p15k66872ontb1umost4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
>>Kai Jones <snippy@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>>>On Tue, 22 Jul 2008 09:56:16 -0700, Michael Rosen
>>><michaelrosen@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> published this:
>>>>
>>>>That whole "cheating is tolerable, but polyamory is wrong" mentality
>>>>weirds me out, too. It seems to me that some people have a huge
>>>>emotional investment in the exact configuration of their intimate
>>>>relation****ps, but none at all in their own moral integrity. It's as
if
>>>>they really expect the sacrament to redeem them.
>>>
>>>Do you genuinely not understand their point of view?
>>
>>That depends what you mean by "understand". Intellectually, I can sorta
>>see it, but in the end, I come back to what Michael is saying about the
>>im****tance of appearances versus moral integrity.
>
>It's really hard for me to believe that you don't have ideals you
>aspire to but don't meet, because that's what the cheating monogamists
>are doing, and I do it to, just not on the same subject. I mean, I
>want to be a better person than I am, and I think being, for example,
>honest and trustworthy, dependable and timely, generous and kind are
>all good things; and yet I don't always achieve those things. Does
>that make me not a person who is striving for them?
I agree that a person can genuinely believe in monogamy and occasionally
fall off the wagon. To me that would be similar to wanting to be honest
but sometimes failing to live up to that. But IMO that's fundamentally
different from claiming to believe in monogamy and then engaging in
long-term or repeated cheating. I think people who do that often justify
their behavior in other ways, or have less discomfort around moral
inconsistency than I think you do.
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