On Jul 23, 10:02=A0am, Pat Kight <kig...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> songbird wrote:
> > Serene Vannoy wrote:
> >> ana...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote:
> >>> On Jul 21, 10:36 pm, Serene Vannoy <ser...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> >>>> nipolycouple wrote:
> >>>>> Thanks for telling me that it can work.
> >>>>> We were told all through our lives that you had to be monogomous
> >>>>> and it really never made sence. =A0There are billions of people
out
> >>>>> there and you are only allowed to love one?
> >>>> Yeah, that's not the way I work. I know there are people who are
> >>>> perfectly happy loving one person at a time, and who never fall in
> >>>> love with a new person when they already have a partner. I'm just
> >>>> not one of them.
>
> >>> I'm still trying to figure out why everyone seems to be ok with
> >>> cheating.
>
> >> I don't think everyone is. =A0I do think that some people seem to
pref=
er
> >> the idea of cheating to the idea of poly, and my theory is that the
> >> idea of being open about having multiple lovers scares them.
>
> > =A0i also think that it involves selfishness, being lazy
> > and then that thing mentioned earlier, control.
>
> > =A0being open can take a lot more work, to explain
> > and figure out what is and isn't working out and
> > what changes to make that will help everyone
> > thrive.
>
> *nod* While I have no direct experience with cheating (from either
> side), I've witnessed plenty of it, and I sometimes wonder if secrecy is
> viewed as an easy way out.
That certainly seems true for some people, and not just about
cheating. The lies I have seen some people make to, say, excuse
themselves from work, and the lies they have to make to cover up the
lies, and so on, has just amazed me. To me, that is far more work than
honesty and its consequences.
Of course, it could just be that I'm a terrible liar.
Lane (aka Pinocchio)
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