Quoth piglet@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
(Blunt and Opaque) on Wed, 23 Jul 2008 14:41:48
+0000 (UTC):
>Vicki Rosenzweig <vr@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, in article
<q57d841d9d1rl6ubo1cha618in2glots80@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, dixit:
>>One-night stands don't appeal to me, but I'm not opposed to them on
>>ethical grounds, if they're conducted honestly: that is, if the people
>>having them tell any other partners about the one-night stand (and
>>stick to whatever they've agreed with those partners) and tell the
>>one-night-stand-partner(s) that they have one or more long-term
>>partners. That is, it's not inherently cheating, even if one or more
>>of the people involved are already in relation****ps.
>
>Sometimes a girl's just gotta get laid. And I see nothing wrong with
>going out and finding someone with a similar goal for the night. It
>can be tricky, negotiating that "do we have the same goal?" question,
>but when it works, it's fabulous.
>
>I agree that one night stands should be conducted honestly -- but my
>standard is not the same as yours. I don't expect or want to be told
>about any other partners this person has, nor do I expect to share
>that information about myself. The shared goal of "one-night stand"
>has covered that for me.
You're right; I wasn't thinking in quite those terms of planning that
something will be a one-night stand.
I was envisioning something in the range from having *** with someone
the day you meet them, and sorting out later whether there will be any
further contact, to casual *** with someone I already knew but was not
in a ***ual or romantic relation****p with, and wasn't planning to be.
If I had met someone that day, but thought we might want to stay in
touch, I would at least want to let them know I'm partnered--that does
matter to some people. (Some might even care that I have partners of
both major genders.) In the latter, they'd probably already know
that, and the main thing I'd be telling them is that my agreements
with my existing partners mean that I'd tell them about the casual
encounter. (Not necessarily in any detail, but "X and I had a one-
night-stand.")
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Vicki Rosenzweig | vr@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
"Heat death or cold, in randomness or Cause,
It is not how it ends, but what it was." --John M. Ford
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