Quoth cathynjim <cathynjim@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> on Wed, 23 Jul 2008 07:49:51
-0700 (PDT):
>On Jul 22, 2:36 am, Miche <michei...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> In article
>> <ed9f0dc8-f668-43d4-b649-6db422495...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
>>
>> ana...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote:
>> > On Jul 21, 10:36 pm, Serene Vannoy <ser...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> > > nipolycouple wrote:
>> > > > Thanks for telling me that it can work.
>> > > > We were told all through our lives that you had to be monogomous
and
>> > > > it really never made sence. There are billions of people out
there
>> > > > and you are only allowed to love one?
>>
>> > > Yeah, that's not the way I work. I know there are people who are
>> > > perfectly happy loving one person at a time, and who never fall in
love
>> > > with a new person when they already have a partner. I'm just not
one of
>> > > them.
>>
>> > I'm still trying to figure out why everyone seems to be ok with
>> > cheating.
>>
>> We are? How'd you get that idea?
>>
>
>Actually Miche, my husband and I are poly together and share the
>experiences. We have had relation****p separately in the long past and
>prefer a true poly relation****p with everyone participating.
>We find this way much more fulfilling. So remember find the situations
>that you and the others feel best about, there is no one rule.
I don't know whether you mean only that you date the same people, or
that you don't have *** with your other partners unless both of you
are there. Either way, if that works for you and your other partners,
fine, but you're likely to annoy people by calling that "a true poly
relation****p" (since that implies that the other kinds are false or
imperfect)
I have relation****ps with individuals, and like it that way. My
partners all like each other, which makes me happy and makes my
life easier. But that doesn't mean my husband wants to join me and
my girlfriend in bed. He's happy to have all three of us at the dinner
table, and when I had surgery he came home from the hospital at
1 a.m. and called her to talk. (I'd posted online that I was going to
the ER, and naturally she was worried.)
Something I wonder about, with people who date as couples: if the
two of you get involved with someone (call them Lee), what happens
if one of you decides you're no longer interested in Lee. Does the
other have to break up with them? Similarly, if Lee broke up with
you, would your husband necessarily break up with them? And if
so, does it bother you, or him, to have to break up with someone
you're still interested in and on good terms with?
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Vicki Rosenzweig | vr@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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