Re: hi from Idaho

On Jul 22, 1:29=A0pm, Lane <absolutel...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> On Jul 22, 3:11=A0pm, s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 (Stef) wrote:
>
>
>
>
>
> > In article <Xb6dnfbrx-njmRvVnZ2dnUVZ_vqdn...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
>
> > Phoenix =A0<drupp...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> > >ana...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
 wrote:
> > >> hmm looks like oopsied, I thought I send the message to the board.
I
> > >> dont mean people here cheat. I mean most of the people we come in
> > >> contact with. They dont want to be upfront and honest with their
> > >> spouses, and they want us to help them cheat. It really bothers me,
> > >> and it's not something I want to get mixed up in.
>
> > >I don't blame you. It bothers me, too...and I won't do it. I don't
> > >understand, like you, how that can be OK with cheating but think that
> > >there's something wrong with poly. Huh?? Makes my brain go "ow"
trying
> > >to figure it out.
>
> > I understand at least some of the mindsets that lead to "cheating is
OK=
"
> > and even that lead to "cheating is OK and poly isn't." They have to do
> > with experiencing jealousy as an out-of-control force, and with
notions
> > of what's private and what's harmful.
>
> > Poly really is a very different philosophy of relation****ps than the
on=
e
> > many of us grew up with. And for some people the transition can be
hard=
..
>
> > I grew up with those mindsets and it was hard for me to transition to
a
> > poly philosophy but I really vastly prefer it. It's so much simpler to
> > be able to express my love for multiple people without having to keep
> > secrets.
>
> So cheating is sort of a transitional phase? Like being bi***ual?
>
> (Please don't throw anything at me. I know there are real bi***uals. I
> was joking.)
>
> Lane- Hide quoted text -
>
> - Show quoted text -

What is real and what isn't for bi***uals?
jer