John Palmer <jpalmer1@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, in article
<li4g84la60psskbfijk7r9qv4jea0he5k8@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, dixit:
>On Tue, 22 Jul 2008 12:04:18 -0700, Kai Jones <snippy@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
>wrote:
>>It's really hard for me to believe that you don't have ideals you
>>aspire to but don't meet, because that's what the cheating monogamists
>>are doing, and I do it to, just not on the same subject. I mean, I
>>want to be a better person than I am, and I think being, for example,
>>honest and trustworthy, dependable and timely, generous and kind are
>>all good things; and yet I don't always achieve those things. Does
>>that make me not a person who is striving for them?
>>As far as excusing their own missteps, that's just a human thing.
>>Doesn't mean they don't still believe the ideal is worthy.
>No, but it would lead me to believe that they merely profess to
>believe that the ideal is worthy, or that their belief isn't all that
>strong/meaningful.
>This doesn't mean I'd be correct in that belief, but I'm not sure that
>being correct would matter to me. "Oh, s/he really, really believes in
>(not) doing X, but she probably can't be trusted to (not) do X" means
>that only the second clause is really relevant to my interactions with
>that person.
I expect everyone to be fallible. I don't trust *anyone* to do or not
do as they profess. More often than not, I've found (in my own
behavior as well as in observing others) that the things we care about
most are also the things we're conflicted about, that we struggle
with.
The angel on one shoulder comes with a devil on the other shoulder.
--
Piglet
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