On Jul 23, 9:38=A0pm, nipolycouple <je...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> On Jul 22, 1:29=A0pm, Lane <absolutel...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > On Jul 22, 3:11=A0pm, s...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > In article <Xb6dnfbrx-njmRvVnZ2dnUVZ_vqdn...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > Phoenix =A0<drupp...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > >ana...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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> > > >> hmm looks like oopsied, I thought I send the message to the
board.=
I
> > > >> dont mean people here cheat. I mean most of the people we come in
> > > >> contact with. They dont want to be upfront and honest with their
> > > >> spouses, and they want us to help them cheat. It really bothers
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> > > >> and it's not something I want to get mixed up in.
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> > > >I don't blame you. It bothers me, too...and I won't do it. I don't
> > > >understand, like you, how that can be OK with cheating but think
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> > > >there's something wrong with poly. Huh?? Makes my brain go "ow"
tryi=
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> > > >to figure it out.
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> > > I understand at least some of the mindsets that lead to "cheating is
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OK"
> > > and even that lead to "cheating is OK and poly isn't." They have to
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> > > with experiencing jealousy as an out-of-control force, and with
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> > > of what's private and what's harmful.
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> > > Poly really is a very different philosophy of relation****ps than the
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> > > many of us grew up with. And for some people the transition can be
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> > > I grew up with those mindsets and it was hard for me to transition
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> > > poly philosophy but I really vastly prefer it. It's so much simpler
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> > > be able to express my love for multiple people without having to
keep
> > > secrets.
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> > So cheating is sort of a transitional phase? Like being bi***ual?
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> > (Please don't throw anything at me. I know there are real bi***uals. I
> > was joking.)
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> What is real and what isn't for bi***uals?
I must admit I don't understand your question. On the other hand, I am
not bi***ual (though I did call myself that for a couple years during
my coming out process) so I am likely not the best source for an
answer to your question even if I understood it.
Others here are, of course, so if you clarified, perhaps someone will
attempt to answer.
Lane
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