I have to admit that you may be onto something with the card thing. She
likes cards, so I try to keep my eyes open for ones that she'd enjoy. I
do
the same thing for jewelry and other things that she likes. Just because
she enjoys them.
We celebrated our 37th anniv last June and have for many years made it a
practice to observe and celebrate Unniversaries and Unbirthdays. (Those
are
all of the days that aren't an anniversary or birthday.) As if we needed
an
excuse to celebrate just being together. :-)
JnD @[EMAIL PROTECTED]
St. Louis
"Irfon-Kim Ahmad" <irfon@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> I was looking for an anniversary card today and I was struck, as I
> always am, but how much of an alien that exercise always makes me feel.
> I did eventually find a card that I liked, although I had to look under
> "love" rather than "anniversary".
>
> It seems like all of the "anniversary" cards are variants of:
>
> Woman: Our relation****p is an exercise in give and take.
> Man: You give the orders and I take them!
>
> ...or something similarly curmudgeonly in which it's implied that the
> people involved have a slightly or significantly adversarial position
> with reference to each other.
>
> One card (filed under "love" rather than "anniversary") was all white
> with a black rectangle on it. In that rectangle was depicted a smaller
> white card with a heart on it. It was drawn in a cute style, so I
> picked it up to see what they text said, hoping to find something cute
> but lighthearted and fun. Instead, in a very plain typeface (not
> Helvetica or Arial, but some other simplified sans-serif) it said: "blah
> blah blah" and when you opened it, inside it said in the same typeface,
> "here's your card". That's it.
>
> How is that romantic? I mean, my first assumption is that it's supposed
> to model a relation****p in which one party wants cards and flowers and
> candy and the other party isn't interested in those things but does it
> anyway because the first party demanded it, but they do it in this
> completely passive-aggressive grumpy curmudgeonly way. To me, that
> doesn't seem happy and functional.
>
> I see this idea of people crankily putting up with each other but
> talking behind their backs, sneaking away as often as possible,
> generally avoiding each other's company, snarking and making fun in
> cruel ways and generally being grumpy about being "stuck with" each
> other touted in movies and television as a charming and realistic view
> of romance, and I really just don't get it.
>
> I'm not really asking a question -- just being baffled in public.
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